Year-End Review 2017

2017 has been a monumental year for our family and while it has taken me almost a month to get this done, I am glad I finally prioritized sitting down to type this.

2017 we started the year preparing to move our oldest out of the house. Frantically planning for a graduation, settling on a college choice and getting scholarship applications completed were a definite priority. Nate settled on Northwest Missouri State and we settled into the New Year planning a year of “lasts” as a family of 5 all living at home. A sad time for this mom.

We spent the New Year 2017 itself ringing in the new year with family and friends dancing the night away at my nephew Alex and his wife Danielle’s wedding on New Year’s Eve. It was a beautiful wedding and we spent New Year’s weekend with family at a hotel in Carroll wishing the newlyweds blessings on their marriage.

February brought Nate wrestling with his team in the state duals in Wells Fargo in Des Moines and we were able to go to state wrestling and watch him wrestle a couple matches. They lost in first round, but what a fun experience for him.

March brought Tyler playing at the state basketball tournament in Des. Moines with his basketball team. It was fun to watch the boys play in the “Well” . An experience of a lifetime, especially for a freshman. We lost in the first round but it was a fun experience for our boys and for my son.

March brought our annual Spring Break trip and we headed to Colorado to tackle Estes Park and the Rocky Mountains. After a stop in Nebraska for family member, Cynthia and Chad’s wedding we had a great time but will forever be remembered as the trip where all THREE of my children got sick. Addie came down with altitude sickness day 1, Nate food poisoning on day 4 and Tyler motion sickness on the Royal Gorge gondola on day 6. The trip took us to Estes Park, Great Smoky Mountains, and Royal Gorge with a stop at Dodge City, Kansas on the way home so Clint could take in the Gunsmoke Museum. We had a great time despite illness.

April brought state track for Tyler and we were able to watch him run in two events as a freshman at state track at Drake. He was able to only high jump to 5’10” before having knee issues, but running was not affected and he ran 2 state events, which was fun to watch.

May brought graduation, graduation party for Nate and two cousins at the feedlot and the end of having 2 teenagers in high school. The month really was a whirlwind as we had senior mass at church, senior dinners, prom which we chaired for the senior class, baccalaureate, awards night, and finally graduation and the kids party in which we had the beef producers grill over 400 burgers for the crowd of well-wishers. It was a fantastic way to end his senior year.

June brought the start of travel basketball but not after a quick trip to Atlanta for Addie and I to meet my newest niece, Rylan. We flew down on Friday and back on Sunday- a quick trip for us.

Once we returned… it was dance recital time and we watched Addie dance in tap, ballet, jazz and tumbling. It was fun watching all of her hard work come to fruition!

July brought a family camping week for our whole family on the Shirbroun side at Little Wall Lake and the kids and I spent a week in the camper in the intense heat of the Iowa summers. We were able to get away to a water park in Storm Lake though and enjoyed having so much time with the entire Shirbroun side for the first time in 9 years.

August brought the much-anticipated move to college for Nate and the start of his new life as an adult college student at Northwest Missouri state University majoring in Ag/Animal Science. The much dreaded drop off was painful for this mom, but watching him soar and be so excited about this new step has been exciting for me and I am happy to see him so successful as a college student. I decorated his dorm and made sure he had all the necessities before we pulled away, and admittedly it took me over 3 months to finally stop texting him every single night to say goodnight and love you…. I still do it at least once a week even now though….

September brought the start of football and back to routine. I started another college class toward my Bachelor’s in nursing and delved into Music Appreciation. Addie started 4th grade at a new school where I am not located and finally branched off on her own a little more. More pain on this mom’s heart.

October brought family back to Iowa and all of my siblings together again at my mom’s for a family weekend. More time with nieces and nephews and time together with my kids all home.

November and December brought the holidays and a torn pectoral muscle and surgery for Clint as he separated the pectoral muscle wrestling a steer while working cattle. He had surgery and has been recovering since that time. Therapy is now done, but healing can take up to a year. December 13th brought a possible meniscus tear in basketball for Tyler and a first, then second opinion on what was going on with his left knee. Turns out it was a hardened cyst that needed to be removed and he had surgery on January 9, 2018. As I type this he remains out of sports and attending therapy re-strengthening the knee to prepare for track this spring.

2017 was the year of sports for sure for us! And… a year of transition into the new world of having adult children. We continue to be blessed and thank God for all blessings in our lives. As we continue in to this new phase in life we continue to ask Him for strength, praying for good decisions from our adult children and safety for all of us in the New Year.

Thanks for checking in with us, and here is to a happy and HEALTHY 2018!

~Laura

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Ode to summer vacations….

I know this is a random topic, but the older I get the more I miss the summer 10 day+ long road trips we took with the kids while they were little. At the time they were work, we had packing and planning to do. We had to route out maps and plan where to stay. But looking back I realize what a gift they were….

 

In the days of having high schoolers, and one now graduating, summer has become about running to and from travel basketball, going to early morning weight lifting and speed and agility training and open gyms. It has become about ATTENDANCE at the mandatory things in the summer that coaches have laid out for the boys high school athletics careers, And while I love to be my kids biggest fan, and I love to be the one on the sidelines cheering my sons and their teams on, I now look back and realize how much I miss throwing my family in the car and taking off on some family adventure for 10 days interrupted.

 

I can remember the year when the kids, ages 9 months, 6 and 9 years and my husband and I hit the road for a family trip to Atlanta. It was the summer after my Grandma had died and I knew that time with family was so precious. We visited Stone Mountain in sweltering heat, raced around Atlanta Motor speedway, spent a day at World of Coke and the Atlanta Aquarium. Visited the Smoky Mountain National Park and the Civil War Park in Chattanooga and rode the incline railway. Those are the memories I cherish most. I remember driving with the kids into Memphis Tennessee and losing Nate in a hotel elevator when he got off on the wrong floor.

 

I remember the summer we headed to the Wisconsin Dells as a family. The kids were slightly older. We stayed for a week in a cabin in the Dells and went to three different water parks in the course of the week. We watched Addie and Clint ride in go-carts and we cooked popcorn over the stove the old way in a jiffy pop metal pan.

 

Then there was the last summer trip we took to South Dakota and Cheyenne Wyoming. We went to the Cheyenne Frontier Days rodeo and looked back through South Dakota where we took in the sights of the Black Hills. Devils Tower, Badlands, Mount Rushmore. The typical family trip.

 

Don’t get me wrong, we take a family road trip every year. Since my boys have hit high school we have made it a habit to go on spring break and have made trips to Phoenix Arizona, Naples Florida, a big loop through Oklahoma and Texas including Dallas, Houston and Oklahoma and San Antonio, and most recently the week long road trip we took to Estes Park Colorado this past spring break.

 

The months before graduation I had been going through pictures of the kids in anticipation of Nate’s upcoming graduation and if there is any one piece of advice I could give it would be TAKE THE TRIP. Looking back at the memories that have been made throwing my kids in the car and driving across the country are priceless. Looking at pictures I am taken back into that moment in time and can remember each trip as if it were yesterday. I am so fortunate to have the blessing of the ability to share this beautiful country with my kids.

 

This past summer, as it had been the past three years, we were at home shuttling kids to sports and practices. We purposely took our family vacation to Estes Park in anticipation of the summer schedule we had. Down deep I will have a little streak of jealousy for those who are packing up the car and hitting the road on a family adventure in the sweltering heat of summer. When my daughter is the last one left at home and the boys are in college, I know our summer family trips will resume minus two boys who have started lives of their own. They will never be the same. We will have fun. And we will see new and exciting things as a smaller family, but I will most definitely cling to the memories of the family vacations and road trips we took while they were all home. I only hope when the have families of their own we can all take a trip together someday.

 

My mom will be turning 70 this year. For her birthday she has asked for a weeklong family trip to the mountains with her whole family. This is all she wanted. I know now where I get my wanderlust and adventurous attitude! We are headed to the Great Smoky Mountains for a week. All of us. I cannot wait to spend that time together in a big house in the mountains soaking it all in. This is truly the stuff life is made of!

 

So in closing- if you get the chance take the tri. It is so worth every minute together away from the hustle and bustle. I look forward to the time away with my nieces and siblings and parents and in laws. This is the stuff memories are made of, and I am already planning the next trip after this one J

 

Till next time,

 

Laura

 

 

 

 

Fairtime 2017

How did I not get this posted? Not sure.. but fair time came …and went over 2 months ago. It was our last one showing cattle as Nate has now graduated and moved on. But the memories are priceless. The animals all have a name, Phil and Jack, Ace, Daisy, Junior….just to name a few. I can remember like yesterday the first animal Nate showed, the runt reject twin steer brought home in a dog crate from my dads farm. His name was Junior. We had him and showed him for two years, and when he left us we cried. I also can remember when Nate said goodbye to Phil, the first steer that won him a first place trophy, The night before he went to auction I sat in the showbarn alone late at night with him, talked to him and cried. It was so hard to watch my 14 year old son say goodbye to his best friend.  He knew it was time, but it did not make it any easier on him, on me, on my daughter. Like I said before, we remember each animal individually, all of them loved. All of them a best friend to my child and all whom have taught him about love and loss and friendship.

Fair 2017 was one for the books. Nate turned over the Cass County Fair King crown to the next worthy recipient as Addie was crowned Little Miss Beef Queen 2017. Nate showed his last steer taking top honors in his class and in showmanship. Addie handed out ribbons at the Feeder Calf show and showed our long time family pet dog, Cowboy who appeared to have the time of his life “taking the ring”.

I served for my last year as head of Addie’s Clover Kid Club and served my last shift in the FFA foodstand as a parent and not as a member of the FFA alumni. We parked our camper in the campground for the last time in the foreseeable future as I believe my daughter will likely be a static exhibitor in her future.

I am not done with 4H as I will take over in her 4H club as a leader there. I will continue to work shifts in the 4H and FFA foodstands and my husband is taking on a post on the grounds committee for the fairground. Our support of the youth and adults who live and love agriculture every day continues in a new way.

Whether you live in the midwest, the plains, the coast or somewhere in between I encourage you to support agriculture in your area and support your local fairs. I have witnessed firsthand the love and care put into these animals and in static exhibit projects and the work these kids put into raising an animal in an ethical, safe and healthy way. These animals are pets to these kids, best friends, confidants and partners. I am lucky to be able to live this and watch this in my life. I am lucky to have been raised in agriculture and married to agriculture. I hope you support the farmers, 4H kids, and FFA members in your community too.

As for the future time will tell for us what it will look like as our daughter matures and discovers her own path at fairtime. It was bittersweet to watch my son take the ring one last time, but he now turns his attention to his major in Animal Science at Northwest Missouri Sate and I am excited for what his next chapter will bring. His love of agriculture will evolve into a career doing what he loves and for that I am grateful.

So to wrap up the fair memories as I will quote a 4H poster I read one time while walking around at the fair. It read “We are more than just a 4H Club… we are Family”

This is so true when you set foot in a county fair show barn, and it will be missed.

Till next time,

Laura

 

 

Two pound bars

I take a lot of meals to banquets and potlucks. I think because I have high school age kids that have a sports banquet or team dinner every other week. Because of this I am always trying to think of something new and exciting to take. Who wants the same old brownies and store-bought cookies every time?

This was a recipe I got from a friend after she made it at a birthday party I went to. It was delicious! I made it for my son’s wrestling team and got requests from the majority of the moms for the recipe because their kids liked it so much. Score! So I will share it on my blog hoping it will make your kids as happy as it has made mine.  🙂

 

Start by mixing the dry ingredients with the melted margarine (or butter- you choose). This would be the first 6 ingredients in the recipe. It will come together in a crumbly texture, see below….

 

Once it looks like this you can press half of this into a 9×13″ pan and bake at 350 degrees for 10 minutes. This brings the bar portion of the bars together so you can top and bake with toppings. When I make this for the football/wrestling teams I usually make 2 pans at a time or I get complaints that they were gone so fast my kids did not get any at home. So I make one for home and one for school.

Press and bake the crusts. After 10 minutes it comes out looking like this and  you an add the toppings. Top with chocolate chips, pour caramel over the top and sprinkle remainder of the oatmeal mix over chocolate and caramel. Put it back in the oven and bake an additional 20 minutes. Take out, let cool and VOILA’! The perfect bar! (My kids actually love to eat these warm and ooey gooey out of the oven)…

I am kicking myself because I did not get an “after” picture of what these look like when they are done but if you can imagine a crumble bar of chocolate, oatmeal and caramel that would be about spot on. They are awesome.

We are on ice and snow day #2 this week in Iowa and have been cooped up avoiding the cold. This would be the prefect treat that is quick to make while stuck at home. Here is the recipe to print and save. Enjoy!

Two Pound Bars

  • Servings: Twelve Bars
  • Difficulty: Easy
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3 sticks margarine or butter melted

2 cups oatmeal

2 cups flour

1 tsp baking soda

tsp salt

1 and 1/2 cups brown sugar

12 oz package chocolate chips

12.5 oz jar smuckers caramel topping

Mix first 6 ingredients above and pat half of mixture in 9×13″ pan. Bake at 350 degrees for 10 minutes. Sprinkle chocolate chips on and pour caramel over the top of the chips. Sprinkle rest of oatmeal mix on the top and bake another 20 minutes.

Hope you all are staying warm!

~Laura

 

Back to school… Back to school…

 

I have been wanting to go back to school for a long LONG time. I am not wanting to do anything new, just advance my degree as a nurse. This is one of those bucket list items I have always had on the back burner.

 

I have been so afraid to take the leap. I am not sure why… but somewhere along the way I have started to doubt my abilities in myself. I have told myself that I cannot possibly work full time, be a good mom and better myself. I have told myself that I am setting myself up to fail and that I cannot possibly do well as a student 20 years after graduating from college the first time. I have told myself that BETTERING myself (for some stupid reason or another) deprives my children of my attention and means I will miss out on being there for them and being a part of their growing up.

 

You know what? I was WRONG.

 

I have been back to school for only a few weeks. I have written two papers in that time and tonight I will be taking my third test and moving into my fourth section. I have received all A’s and one B.

 

I have been to every sporting even since I started, have not missed a single thing my kids have going on and actually seem like a BETTER mother since I started.

 

Why? Here are a few reasons…

 

  1. My kids see me trying to better myself, and that makes them proud. My son actually helped me with the format of my first paper, and my other son proofread it. Both my boys were as excited to see my grade post online as I was. Together we tackled one of my greatest fears in trying to succeed and they were proud of me. Let me stress that again… proud. Proud enough to share my grade with other people.
  2. My kids see me stress the value of lifelong learning and education. Do I need to be in school? Probably not. Do I want to be so that I can earn more, elevate myself in my position and increase my knowledge in the medical filed? Yes. They see me trying to learn and grow… and they see the value in it for themselves and their future.
  3. My children see that placing value on myself is important too. I am a good mom, cheerleader, wife, employee and etc. I take care of everything my family needs and make sure to be at every concert, game, meeting, church event, professional event for my husbands…. but what about valuing things that are important to me? They finally see me placing value on my own interests and that is pretty cool.
  4. They see me utilizing good time management skills. No I cannot watch TV, I have homework. Yes, I can go to the movies tonight because I got all my homework done last weekend. No, I cannot watch that show until I have my paper done. etc. etc. They see me balancing work and family and school and that it CAN be done and time can be managed effectively so everyone wins.
  5. They see me reading. I have to admit… I have not always been the best reader. I would call myself mediocre at best. I would sometimes read for fun, but it was not something my children saw me do on a regular basis. Now they see me taking the time to read… and carry on conversations about what I am learning about. It is a bonus when my kids can talk to me about what I am learning, because it is something they recently learned about too.

 

So as I approach the mid point of my first class back in school… Philosophy… I am proud to say that I am ROCKIN this back to school thing. I will continue to hack away at classes as long as I have the energy to. And to those neighsayers out there who say things like “why would you want to go back to school??? Ugh….” I say….

 

BECAUSE I BELIEVE IN MYSELF AND I WANT TO BE THE BEST ME I CAN BE.

 

Until next time-

 

~Laura

Growing up.. thoughts on his last year…


Do you know what this is? This is a photo and a mother hugging her son after his last high school football game he will ever play. Standing by the bus to tell him I know he will miss it… but he has big things ahead of him. This is a mother who is giving her son a hug after watching him for the past 11 years go from flag football to middle school football to tackle football. This is a mother whose heart is breaking and at the same time is swelling with so much pride she doesn’t know what to say to her son. This is me. 

I am not wanting to wish things away.

 As you can see I have been pretty much absent since this summer. I am 100% positive this is because of the fact that I have a senior at home and I am wanting to enjoy every minute of his last days under my roof before we send him off for college. It’s not that I do not like to blog, and it is not that I don’t have topics I want to share… but it is more the fact that when I am not cheering him or his younger brother on from the stands at their MULTIPLE sporting events I am enjoying every moment of having him at home.

 We have done all the mandatory things parents of seniors need to do. Senior pictures have been taken, ordered and picked up. College visits done (I really should do a blog post on that!) a college has been chosen and his housing deposit has been sent in. I am on his prom planning committee and prom planning is full on in the works and is going forward full steam ahead.

I have been told many things as a parent of a child leaving the nest. I have been told the junior year is the hardest. I would actually agree because I think you spend the junior year worrying about what is to come and knowing that everything is the “last” of each event. Whereas the senior year you actually spend time enjoying it because it is their last of each thing.

 I have also been told that God in all his infinite wisdom prepares you for this next step by making the child spread his/her wings a little and they end up pushing back. This pulling away prepares you to give them a push. I would agree with this too. My son is becoming increasingly more independant in his thinking, in his actions and in his mindset. He is pushing back more than he ever has and in doing so… makes it easier for me to say “it is time for you to go”.

My mind set is shifting. I am seeing myself start to prepeare for weekend college visits to take my son to Target for essentials and out to eat. I see myself mentally shopping for his dorm and moving his old bedroom upstairs so my other son can have the coveted “basement bedroom”. I see myself shifting my mindset to “will he call?’ vs. “you must call”. I know the power is shifting into his hands. He will no longer NEED me to make decisions for him anymore. They are his own.

 Don’t get me wrong- I wish I could keep my kids at home with me forever. But I know that my job is to raise them to be smart, respectful, capable human beings. I know that I have to let go…. eventually… of the past little boys and girls that I have in my mind. Gone are the days of match box cars and sticky fingers, sippy cups and Teletubby videos. I have to force myself to look at my son as a young adult and not as a young man. But it is so tough to let go sometimes.

 So I apologize for my absence. It will get better I am sure when my time is not so focused on enjoying every moment. Until then hold your kids tight, tell them you love them and they are capable and enjoy the moment. It goes so very fast.

 Until next time-

 ~Laura

Palm Springs/Coachella Valley 2016

 

In November we went to Palm Springs/ Coachella Valley as part of the ASFMRA conference (American Society of Farm Managers and Rural Appraisers). My husband had been working to receive his farm manager accreditation for the past 4 years and this was the conference where he would receive his accreditation. We stayed at the Hyatt Regency Indian Wells Resort and Spa. It was beautiful, clean, well maintained and I highly recommend it. For more information click here: Hyatt Regency Indian Wells Resort and Spa

 

View outside of our hotel room

I had been to Malibu and the LA area of California before, but have never been to this desert area before I was impressed! The area was beautiful. Water is such a premium here though that understanding how anything could grow was difficult until I had the time to ask o the farm tour we attended. The lush greens of the gold courses, yards and etc was interesting because of the lack of water.. but when I learned more about the canal system things made more sense.

 

Water canal system in the valley

We arrived and spent the first night at the conference. We had a poolside reception and the weather could not have been more perfect. Calm. No humidity, dry, perfect temp. I can see why this is a chosen retirement area for seniors. Weather was gorgeous. Dinner was at Arnold Palmer’s restaurant where we had prime rib and chocolate flourless cake. Soooo gooood.

 

The first day after we arrived we attended a Dupont Farm tour of local agriculture. It was so interesting to see. The area is truly desert. No water… rain is rare so they have a canal system where farmer “order “ their water to be delivered similar to how we “order” our fertilizers to be applied. Neighbors know water is a precious resource so they rotate so they do not over use the supply and take turn with delivery on a routine basis.

On the bus waiting to start our tour

Touring a pepper farm on our DuPont ag tour

New crop they are developing.. Kale-etts

The primary crops we saw on our tour were green peppers, celery, grapes, kale and a new hybrid called “Kale-etts”, and lettuce. The most prized crop they have is the date, and date trees are everywhere. We attended a tour of Shields “Date Garden” and had a date shake. Delicious, but not a favorite of mine. They also use dates to make a derivative that is a date “sugar” used in cooking

The garden you walk through behind the restaurant at Shields

While there we had the chance to tour 2 businesses. Head start Nursery, and Primetime Peppers. Both were equally interesting.

Celery plants ready to be planted

Prime time has a newer open-air type manufacturing facility where peppers are picked and packaged. The huge lines of peppers going across conveyer belts were interesting to see. The facility was extremely clean and well kept and the peppers were inspected to be sent to Wal-Mart as one of their primary buyers.

 

Head start Nursery was interesting to see because the have countless seedling sin trays to be sent out to businesses like Prime Time to be transplanted and grown. We saw seedling “tape” being developed to be planted and the humidity controlled greenhouses where peppers being to grow before being shipped out for planting.

 

Lunch was at Shields where we had the date shake and we ended the evening exhausted back at the hotel. Was a fun day.

 

The second day my husband had meetings so I went with the spouses on a tour of home in the area. Bing Crosby, Marilyn Monroe, Frank Sinatra, Leonardo Dicapprio, Lucille Ball, Elvis Presley, Bob Hope all had homes here. We were able to drive by all the houses and see where all these famous people used to reside. So interesting. Of particular interest was Bob Hope’s entertainment house and Elvis Presley’s honeymoon hide-away.

 

We had lunch at Melvyn’s world famous restaurant where all the stars dines, had a world famous “Mel-tini” for lunch… delicious… and spent the remainder of the day shopping before the reception that night.

My Mel-tini and I had the Monte Cristo…

Melvyn’s famous restaurant, unfortunately Melvyn passed away just prior to our trip

We came home wishing we had time to ride the cable car which is a must see in Palm Springs, but time did not allow. We had the brief few days there but definitely got a taste of the desert lifestyle. It was beautiful. I would highly recommend a stop here if ever in the area. I jut wish we had more time to see it all!

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